So I do believe that it is a good thing that Joe Paterno died. But it is also a profoundly sad and tragic thing that, as his former quarterback Todd Blackledge put it, he died of a broken heart.
Let me be clear; I don’t accept or condone Joe Paterno’s failure to act and follow up appropriately in the face of the allegations about his long-time, highly regarded assistant coach. He screwed up, and I think it’s entirely possible that the gradual coming to terms with his inaction is, at least in part, what killed him. But let me be equally clear in saying that I don’t believe his tragic mistake or failure to act more thoroughly and definitively should be allowed to cancel out his legacy of 46 incredible years at the helm of Penn State’s football program.
The way this Joe Pa “debate” has been framed since the Sandusky news broke, like so many debates in our American, Cross-Fire culture, has been all or nothing, either or. Is Paterno a hero or a villain; is he a perpetrator or a victim? Why must we Americans be so black and white in how we respond to tragic flaws in our citizens, especially those who happen to be famous.Why can't we see ourselves and each other in various shades of gray?
I remember when John Belushi died in March of 1982. He was my all-time favorite comedian and SNL cast member. As the details of his grizzly and drug induced demise started to come to light, it seemed that the media and the vast majority in America somehow felt he should be discredited as a comedian. It was as if the fact that he had this horrible addiction was supposed to somehow devalue or diminish his comedic contribution to society. I didn’t understand that perspective then, nor do I understand it now in regard to Joe Pa.
Again, I get that he screwed up. I get that a lot of innocent children suffered horrible sexual abuse, at least in part because of Paterno’s inaction and failure to follow up adequately with both university and law enforcement officials. (And again, I believe that Joe Pa “got” this too and that that realization killed him!) But he was still a great football coach. He still made tons of unbelievable and lasting contributions to Penn State football, Penn State University, State College PA, and the list goes on. Acknowledging the gravity of his error should not diminish the magnitude of his contribution. The two can and should co-exist. In fact, they must co-exist.
I don’t know why we Americans are so bloodthirsty and vulture like when one of our own screws up. Where is our compassion? Where is our willingness to look honestly at ourselves and our own sins and shortcomings? Those of us who have screwed up and screwed up badly in our lives, in our jobs, in our relationships and families know that our screw up is not what defines us. It may be a part of who we are, a part of what we’ve done, a chapter in our story. But it is not the whole picture.
My hope and prayer for Coach Paterno and his family is that the country he lives in, the media, the sports community, and the Penn State community will be able to hold in our hands and in our hearts both his coaching greatness and his failure to follow up in this one critical instance, to hold them both, at once...together...simultaneously. So that in the end we can say of Joe Pa what young Prince Hamlet said of his father shortly after he died, “He was a man, take him for all in all; I shall not look upon his like again.”